instinct

Smile

2005-07-07T18:57:00.000-07:00

Fake smiles,

can be performed at will, because the brain signals that create them come from the conscious part of the brain and prompt the zygomaticus major muscles in the cheeks to contract. These are the muscles that pull the corners of the mouth outwards.

Genuine smiles,

on the other hand, are generated by the unconscious brain, so are automatic. When people feel pleasure, signals pass through the part of the brain that processes emotion. As well as making the mouth muscles move, the muscles that raise the cheeks – the orbicularis oculi and the pars orbitalis – also contract, making the eyes crease up, and the eyebrows dip slightly.

Real Men do Cry - thesundaytimes 180404

2005-07-07T18:30:00.000-07:00

Are men likely to keep problems to themselves?

Yes, men are generally less expressive emotionally than women.

Why?

Partly because men and women inheretly different, but also because of social conditioning. one often hears phrases like "take it like a man". Men are supposedto be macho - talking of their problems can be perceived as a sign of weakness.

What kind of problem does this lead to?

If men are unable to exress their feelings of fear and sadness, some may express it in the only way they know how - through violence or hitting out in anger and aggression.

Men are more prone to expressing this range of emotions.

On the other hand, some may bottle up their pent-up frustrations and indulge in alcohol or substance abuse.

Others may have panic or anxiety attacks, or slip into depression.

Break Point

2005-07-07T18:13:00.000-07:00

victim of stress - too many things to do, too little time.

BBC news - "when you are angry, you are pouring stress hormones into your blood system which is harmful to your heart."

Physical Signs

- heachaches or backaches
- muscle tension
- trouble sleeping at night
- getting sick easily
- loss of appetite

Emotional Signs

- being sad or depressed
- being easily angered or irritated
- worrying alot
- being afraid of something
- experiencing a sense of hopelessness

Mental Signs

- Having trouble concentrating
- being forgetful
- suffering from mental block
- being sensitive to criticism
- lacking of self confidence

Behavioural Signs

- resorting to aggressive behaviour
easily losing interest in activities
- staying away from friends
- avoiding tasks
- easily distracted, careless or accident-prone
- easily restless

*taken from thesundaytimes, 180404

eXplore

2005-06-30T09:31:00.000-07:00

we must not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we began and to know the place for the first time.

2005-06-30T09:25:00.000-07:00

"most of the important thins in the world have been accomplished by people whohave kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all."

"what i do today is important because i am paying a day of my life for it. What i accomplish must be worthwhile the price is high."

"Never say, ' i can't handle it.' When an ant looks at something twice what he can handle and then carries it home to share, you can handle."

Politics

2005-06-22T10:27:00.000-07:00

- is when poeple choose their words and actions based on how they want others to react rather than based on what they really think.

wHat U donT likE

2005-06-22T09:10:00.000-07:00

Find out what you don’t like doing, and stop doing it

4 Strategies

1. Stop doing it
2. Team up
3. Offer up your strongest talents
4. Perspective

Take Stock every 3 months. Check the percentage, if you are doing something that you don’t like, you will find that you cannot sustain.

Energy, Time and $$

2005-06-22T08:55:00.000-07:00

Energy Time $$
Child have have no
Adult have no have
Senior Citizen no have have

- is all about balance, on what you want to do and what kind of life you want to lead.

advice on starting a business

2005-05-17T09:13:00.000-07:00

- Have a business plan and have people take a shot at it from all angles.
- Adjust the plan.
- Execute it with a passionate zeal that even the most ferocious storm will be unable to douse it. - Most of all, to develop and entrepreneurial mindset

"Elim Chew, Managing Director of 77th street"

HelPinG oTheRs...

2005-05-16T07:57:00.000-07:00

Rule

#1 - kNow THat u caN't hElp eveRyoNe

#2 - u R of nO heLp, iF thE saMe maTTer arisEs aGain n AgaIn

#3 - iF u caN't heLp uRseLf, wHat's TheRe fOr u 2 HelP othERs

Success n Hard Working

2005-05-03T07:43:00.000-07:00

2 things that i have learnt today,

1. Expressing

Is a part that we would like to take note of, simply what we said may not be what we meant. Ending up with misunderstanding. Eg. A problem to others may not be a problem to you, by commenting it with words like, "it's nothing..." or "i don't agree with you cause..."

Sooner or later... something is going to happen. What I learnt today, is how to be myself and explaining it correctly. Eg. "I agree that the problem is faced by all and from understanding, it could be solved if everyone just keeps trying..."

got this from an email,

Jack and Max are walking from religious service.
Jack wonders whether it would be all right to smoke while
praying. Max replies, "Why don't you ask the Priest?"
So Jack goes up to the Priest and asks, "Father, may I smoke while I pray?"
The Priest replies, "No, my son, you may not! That's utter disrespect to our religion."
Jack goes back to his friend and tells him what the good Priest told him.

Max says, "I'm not surprised. You asked the wrong question. Let me try."
And so Max goes up to the Priest and asks, "Father, may I pray while I smoke?
To which the Priest eagerly replies, "By all means, my son. By all means.
You can always pray whenever you want to."

Moral of the story is... The reply you get depends on the question you ask.
For Example, if you want a vacation when still working on a project, don't ask for the holiday; ask: "Can I keep working on this project while I'm on vacation?"

0.o"

2. Hard Working

Successful People is Hard Working ...

Right ??

Hard Working may not be Successful ...

Why ??

*think about it, the answer is just right infront of you.

loving a woman... it's more then actions n words...

2005-05-02T07:19:00.000-07:00

love the girl in ur heart, not in ur mind.
if u base ur relationship on feelings,
it will fail for there are ups and downs in feelings.
girls are there to be loved, not toyed around.

love her for who she is.
don't even think about changing any bit about her.
6 billion pple in this world and 6 billion different personalities.
she's special and shy will stay that way.
you change any part of her, you'll change her forever.
don't subsitute her for anyone else, they are juz unique in their own ways.

love whole-heartedly.
she sacrificed alot for you so you'd better really treasure her.
she could hv just got up and date a so much more dashing guy in town but she chose you instead all becuz of love.so love her, guys, not play with her.
don't just get the girl to beg you to stay or watsoever.
if you're with her, love her.

don't cause a strain in the relationship,
you'll end up loving each otherout of pity or charity,
that's not respecting love at all.
respect love the way it is and everything will be the best it can be.
i've been there and i know how it feels.

don't expect perfection from her.
she's the only one in the world and she's done the best she could.

don't go calling other girls 'honey' or 'darling',
how would it feel ifyour girl calls other guys the same way?
be faithful, enough is enough.

socialise only when you're single.
you socialise and flirt around is to get the girl of your dreams.
get it over when she's already yours, don't ask for more.

it never kills to be romantic.
think, be flexible.
getting that diamond ring isn't the only gift for her.
be realistic, she's human and she lives life just like you.
something sweet and simple always get the job done.

money doesn't exist between couples, its the love.

never promise her that you'll love her forever becuz your forever might end the next day.
love her as it each day is the last.

sweet talking only applies for singles, not for attached guys.
do that and you'll really break your girl's heart.

it isn't good being too well-known too, it'll give her a sense of insecurity.
remember, INSECURITY.

promise her and make sure you never break the promise.
swear to her and make sure you live up to your word.
pledge your love to her and her only.

loving her is giving her your heart to break it but trusting her not to.
same goes for her,
giving you her heart means allowing you to break it and trusting you not to.
instead, she'll cherish it and protect it.
shouldn't you do the same thing as well?
that's love.

give her your heart, your life, your everything.
lay down your life and prepare to die for her when the need arises.
but stay strong and live through another day,
she can never live without you.

- end

got this email from one of my friend, reminding us that love is a wonderful thing but one has to do his/her part. only then, things work out.

Golden Word

2005-04-19T09:45:00.000-07:00

- Not 2 Give Up -

Giving up is never an option.

For Guys Out There ...

2005-04-18T08:18:00.000-07:00

> In the world of romance, one single rule applies to the men:

>> Make the woman happy.
> Do something she likes, and you get points.
> Do something she dislikes and points are subtracted.

>> You don't get any points for doing something she expects.
> Sorry, that's the way the game is played.

>> Here is a guide to the point system:

>> SIMPLE DUTIES
> You make the bed (+1)
> You make the bed, but forget the decorative pillow (0)
> You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets (-1)
> You go out to buy her what she wants (+5) In the rain (+8)
> But return with Beer (-5)> You check out a suspicious noise at night (0)
> You check out a suspicious noise, and it is nothing (0)
> You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)
> You pummel it with iron rod (+10)> It's her pet (-10)

>>> SOCIAL ENGAGEMENTS
> You stay by her side the entire party (0)
> You stay by her side for a while, then leave to chat with a college
> buddy (-2) Named Tina (-4)
> Tina is a dancer (-6)> Tina has silicon implants (-80)

>>> HER BIRTHDAY
> You take her out to dinner (0)
> You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar (+1)
> Okay, it's a sports bar (-2)
> And it's all-you-can-eat night (-3)
> It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can-eat night, and your face is painted
> the colours of your favourite team (-10)

>>> A NIGHT OUT
> You take her to a movie (+2)
> You take her to a movie she likes (+4)
> You take her to a movie you hate (+6)
> You take her to a movie you like (-2)
> It's called 'DeathCop' (-3)
> You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans (-15)

>>> YOUR PHYSIQUE
> You develop a noticeable potbelly (-15)
> You develop a noticeable potbelly and exercise to get rid of it (+10)
> You develop a noticeable potbelly and resort to baggy jeans and baggy
> Hawaiian shirts (-30)
> You say, "It doesn't matter, you have one too." (-8000)

>>> ENJOY THE 'BIG' QUESTION
> She asks, "Do I look fat?"
> You answer it frankly (-5)
> You hesitate in responding (-10)
> You reply, "Where?" (-35)
> Any other response (-20)
> [Yes, you LOSE points no matter WHAT]

>>> COMMUNICATION
> When she wants to talk about a problem,
> You listen, displaying what looks like a concerned _expression (0)
> You listen, for over 30 minutes (+50)
> You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV (+500)
> She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-10000)

> Now what chance do you have???

Beggar

2005-04-13T08:32:00.000-07:00

Story of Beggar,

What would you do if you see a beggar on the street??

I would encourage you to think about it for awhile, and don't help.

Why?
Even he is very hungry, you can help him today but at
the same thing will happen again tomorrow.
He will be telling you that he is hungry, right?

So,

If someone has tried and cannot then is a different case.
Give him a fish to eat and teach him how to fish !!!

One must keep in mind that you are responsible for your own life; what you want and where you are going. Kill the small beggar in you.

2 My Boss

2005-04-12T05:37:00.000-07:00

Hi Boss,

People who do lots of work...
make lots of mistakes

People who do less work...
make less mistakes

People who do no work...
make no mistakes

People who make no mistakes...
gets promoted

That's why I spend most of my time here reading mails
I need a promotion.

Changing to a New Dimension

2005-04-10T08:04:00.000-07:00

During a chance, people can be identify into 3 classes

1. Leaders
- take lead and adapt to the changes
- seek for answers in point of doubt
- leave the past and take change as a growth

2. Followers
- they will follow upon seeing the leader success
- giving up easliy
- do not know how to handle the down time

3. Quitters
- refuse to change
- blaming the world instead of themselves
* look for "Fighter Vs Quitter" to know more

"Survival of the fittest" or "Move like water" are examples of handling changes.

Tha Laws of Seed

2005-04-10T07:53:00.000-07:00

To cultivate a seed to a productive plant,
it requires,

known as factors,
1. water
2. sunlight
3. air
4. soil
5. weeds free

That's not all, we still have what I call the sub factors,
1. effort
2. patience

Then... We will have our end result !!

Learning
- growth is important to us but we shouldn't forget that effort and patience is a must before
results can be shown.

Difference Between Women And Men

2005-04-06T08:19:00.000-07:00

1.NAMES

If Laurie, Linda, Elizabeth and Barbara go out for lunch, they will call each other Laurie, Linda, Elizabeth and Barbara.

If Mark, Chris, Eric and Tom go out, they will affectionately refer to each other as Fat Boy, Godzilla, Peanut-Head and Scrappy.

2.EATING OUT

When the bill arrives, Mark, Chris, Eric and Tom will each throw in a $10 , even though it's only for $32.50. None of them will have anything smaller and none will actually admit they want change back.

When the women get their bill, out come the pocket calculators.

3.MONEY

A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he needs.

A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn't need, but it's on sale.

4.BATHROOMS

A man has five items in his bathroom: a toothbrush, shaving cream, razor, a bar of soap, and a towel from the Marriott.

The average number of items in the typical woman's bathroom is 37. A man would not be able to identify most of these items.

5.ARGUMENTS

A woman has the last word in any argument.

Anything a man says after that... is the beginning of a new argument.

6.CATS

Women love cats.

Men say they love cats, but when women aren't looking, men will ignore cats.

7.FUTURE

A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.

A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

8.SUCCESS

A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.

A successful woman is one who can find such a man

9.MARRIAGE

A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.

A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change ! and she does.

10.DRESSING UP

A woman will dress up to go shopping, water the plants, empty the garbage, answer the phone, read a book, and get the mail.

A man will dress up for weddings and funerals.

11.NATURAL

Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed.

Women somehow deteriorate during the night.

12.OFFSPRING

Ah, children. A woman knows all about her children. She knows about dentist appointments and romances, best friends, favorite foods, secret fears and hopes and dreams.

A man is vaguely aware of some short people living in the house.

13.THOUGHT FOR THE DAY

Any married man should forget his mistakes. There's no use in two people remembering the same thing.

AND FINALLY....

A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word. An earlier discussion had led to an argument and neither of them wanted to concede their position.

As they passed a barnyard of mules, jack asses, and pigs, the husband asked sarcastically, "Relatives of yours?" "Yep," the wife replied, "in-laws."

Going One more Step

2005-03-29T05:14:00.000-08:00

"tough time buld tough people."

"be a good listener. your ears will never get you in trouble."

Reaching your Goals

- Mindset/Focus
- Asking/Learning
- Accepting tons of Criticism
- Desire

whenever i feel like giving up, i will tell myself this

"giving up is never an option."

Problem

2005-03-22T09:17:00.000-08:00

- 1st time -> problem
- 3rd time -> problem
- 10th time -> problem

even when we are doing the same thing over and over again,
everytime there's always a new problem arising.
therefore, it is important for us to understand and react accordingly.

"there's 2 kinds of problem in this world, your problem, my problem.
so don't make your problem to my problem."

Responsibility

2005-03-19T11:33:00.000-08:00

- if it is not affecting my business, is none of my business

- goal setting, focus on myself not others

- it is not people's job to teach but my job to teach

- stepping outside the comfort zone,willingness to learn from everyone

- work with people that has the ability that you are lacking

Fighter VS Quitter

2005-03-17T07:57:00.000-08:00

Fighter

- Never Give Up
- self motivated
- find solutions
- smile all the time
- focus, confident
- discipline
- plan ahead
- double when times r bad
- motivates people

Quitter

- smile when times r good
- easily demoralised
- give up easily
- find excuses
- no initiative
- need motivation

there are 2 kinds of people in the world,

1. hit the wall and try ways to overcome it.
(problem + overcoming problem) = solution

2. turn around or an easier way.
(problem + temp solution) = bigger problem

when things r bad,

focus ?? having problems like ??

- day dreaming
- not driven
- uncomitted

~ where i am is where i am, but where i am going is up to mi...

System

2005-03-14T07:40:00.000-08:00

Is a common word that we use during operation, completing one at a time. Ask yourself have you tried to workout a system to suit your lifestyle? Setting a goal and achieving it in a step by step manner may sound simple. But working it out is not that simple !!

What to do first and when to do it, is all decided by yourself. Last, how effective is it ?? There was a T-Shirt that caught my attention few days ago, printed in bold, "No one will remember who came in Second."

Baby, Don't you break my Heart slow

2005-01-30T09:26:00.000-08:00

I like the way you wanted me
Every night for so long baby
I like the way you needed me
Every time things got rocky

I was believing in you
Am I mistaken do you say,
Do you say what you mean
I want our love to last forever

But I'd rather you be mean than love and lie
I'd rather hear the truth and have to say goodbye
I'd rather take a blow at least then I would know
But baby don't you break my heart slow

I like the way you'd hold me
Every night for so long baby
And I like the way you'd say my name
In the middle of the night While you were sleeping

I was believing in you
Was I mistaken Do you mean,
mean what you say
When you say our love could last forever

Well I'd rather you be mean than love and lie
I'd rather hear the truth and have to say goodbye
I'd rather take a blow at least then I would know
But baby don't you break my heart slow

(Bridge)
You would run around and lead me on forever
While I wait at home thinking that we're together

Time

2005-01-23T01:53:00.000-08:00

There will always be a time for everything,
stop for a while and look at the surrounding and you will find it beautiful.

family

2005-01-11T06:04:00.000-08:00